Today I am asking an importing question, have you felt supported by your neurology team? From your diagnosis, through to the altering medications, the life changing moments, and even the highs and the lows that epilepsy brings.
As epilepsy is a life long condition, your neurologist becomes an important part of your life.
You would expect your neurology team to provide you with all the help and support you require regarding epilepsy, however not everyone receives it and I have been one of those people. Today I have decided to share my experiences with you.
This has taken a lot of consideration, as I wanted to remain as positive as possible about epilepsy, but I realised that if I am open about my experiences I could potentially help other people, and this is what this blog is all about.
My Experience of Neurology Teams
Thankfully, I have great memories of my first neurologist. She provided me with all the advice and guidance I could need, in one situation, she even brought in one of the top UK paediatric neurologists to see me. I couldn’t fault the care.
I had a neurologist who asked if I was learning to drive when I was 17, this was his reply when I told him I was learning;
“You shouldn’t be learning to drive, your epilepsy isn’t controlled! I demand that you hand your provisional licence into the DVLA at once!… (few minutes gap as no one was talking) I won’t be upset if I were you, I have to tell taxi drivers and bus drivers that they can no longer drive every day, and driving is their living, this is nothing to you!”
So as you can imagine I left that appointment upset. The moment I turned 16 healthcare professionals became obsessed with topics such as pregnancy while never discussing the subject of driving. (I wouldn’t have had lessons otherwise). But a decade later I have no children and I can legally drive 🙂
I will confess that I wasn’t exactly the perfect patient either, up to this point not one medication had worked for me. It’s frustrating when medications begin to alter your mood, increase your weight and damage other aspects of your health for little or no gain. So I decided to see how different my life would be like medication free.
I soon had a new consultant who was overly anxious when she discovered that I was medication free. I consider myself to have very mild epilepsy with perhaps one seizure a year, and although I appreciate that I was at risk without medication when I wasn’t taking medication I felt the same, perhaps better, because I had freedom from side-effects and saw no increase in seizures.
My neurologist would frequently discuss the seriousness of my condition even mentioning that I could die if I wasnt on medication.
I can remembering thinking that if someone has cancer and decides to decline treatment, the doctor respects their decision. But this situation felt pressured…
I was about 18, I was home alone, still medication free, and my support nurse called me. It was obvious that the intention of her call was to get me on medication again. I explained to her that I was doing well and was concentrating on a healthy lifestyle. She told me to stay away from ‘stupid’ ideas (which she apologised for) and later went on to explain to me that she has had ‘patients who have died from this’. I urged to her that my epilepsy is thankfully minor and always produces plenty of notice and auras. Her reply, ‘what if it doesn’t?’ Eventually, I pitifully agreed to begin medication again, hung up the phone and cried. I felt like a push over.
After two years of trying various medications, I found on that thankfully worked.
After my consultant were pleased that my medication was working, I received a letter signing me off from their care.
Why did I share this story?
I know I don’t have the most positive experience with some of my neurologists or support nurses, and I have not written this article to slam neurology departments. I fully appreciate that the hospital had to be realistic and had to provide the information related to my condition, and I am grateful for the work they do, but I sometimes wonder how different the outcome would have been if they had been slightly more tactful and resourceful. There were times where I would leave appointments upset, reaching the car and beginning to sob, but thankfully my mum was there to give me the best encouragement, support…and hugs 🙂
If you have a child, relative or friend who is experiencing similar I think it’s important to place as many positive thoughts in their mind, telling them that you are always there to talk, and reminding them of all the amazing things that they can achieve.
How Supported Have You Felt By Your Neurology Team?
You might think that the neurology team are not supposed to be there to support you, just to give you medical and professional advice.
I however think that having a diagnosis of epilepsy is a life changing and lifelong one which requires support and positivity where possible.
I would be interested to know different people’s experiences and views of their neurology team and how supported they have felt.
Thanks for reading,