Is the Grass Always Greener On The Other Side?

We have all heard the idiom, ‘the grass is always green on the other side’. I think many of us have experienced pangs of envy when we believe other people are achieving more than us or getting further in life.

But as I am the type of person who enjoys observing and listening to others, I learnt long ago that no one’s life is perfect, and know that there is no such thing as a perfect life. Life will throw obstacles in your way and you have to get around them. But I think that many believe that life should be one easy road and give up at the first hurdle.

There have been increasing occasions where I’ll be at a friend or relatives house. They’ll be a feeling a little low, and will tell me about their worries, whether its financial, career etc. then they will refer to another friend or relative and dreamily mention how they admire some aspect of their lives saying how they’ve got it, ‘all sorted out’.

But little do they know that those people they wistfully mention also possess many problems (because they tell me), and they do the same thing, either by mentioning about others that they think have a perfect life – or they refer back to the original person, admiring a part of their life.

It’s like a big circle!  (I don’t say anything as I’m not going to betray trust), but in these increasingly occurring situations I don’t know whether to find the situation funny or sad.

I imagine lining up the whole group of interconnected family and friends and telling them one by one the amazing things that everyone else admires about them.

I think this is something that we frequently overlook. We see people achieving things that we hope for, but we often ignore amazing accomplishments that we have made ourselves, and don’t believe for one second that someone else would want to be in our shoes.

So, is the grass always greener on the other side? No, it isn’t, it’s purely down to the way you view the world. You can’t look at another person and assume that they are happier as you’re only looking at the part of their life that you want to look at. Their best part, which is nice I guess.

But, if you constantly consider people around you to be more successful and happier, then naturally it will tear away at you. I have known people who have been so focused on what others are achieving that they don’t pay enough attention to their own happiness, and that’s the crux of the matter. It doesn’t matter what you’re achieving or what you possess, it’s whether you are happy.

Don’t think for one moment that you must have your life sorted out. I believe the best thing you can do in life is to be happy, let go of the petty everyday problems, appreciate everything in everyday and love everyone in your life.

Thanks for reading!

Becky 🙂

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Greater Gratitude, Better Outlook

When you think of gratitude, what do you think of?

Do you think about the nice thing that someone has for you recently, or is it something a little bigger than that?

What are you grateful for in your life?

At times of difficulty or illnesses many of us (myself included) have felt that there has been hardly anything in this world to feel grateful about, and when you consult other people on what they are grateful for, they will say that we’re grateful for our technology or material objects.

When our lives become busy, as they do, or if we enter a time of perhaps hardship, we sometimes forget to notice the good things that are constantly happening all around us. When we notice these things and appreciate them, we feel happier, and when we’re happy our lives become richer.

I know this sounds very simple, but just from noticing and appreciating the simple pleasures in life could increase your happiness and reduce your stress.

People come across this frequently throughout their lives and at different moments of their lives. They appreciate the balance of life, and they start to notice the amazing world that is around them. They don’t have to be anywhere special, but they value their life, their opportunities, their dreams, the amazing way that the world around them just…exists. I don’t think enough people take the time to appreciate the astounding world that is around them every single day.

Unfortunately we can sometimes be a little too preoccupied with our lives, focusing on the negative aspects of the world instead of just ignoring it and looking for the good instead.  

I would recommend everyone to try focusing on the things that they are grateful for, and seeing if it makes you more appreciative of the world around you. You can start off by writing a list of the things that you are grateful for, whether it’s your family or friends. Think about the things that they do to make you smile and write that down. If you love your pets and are grateful for them, add them to the list as well.

Next, add all the little things in life that make you happy, these can be the things such as the smell of freshly mown grass, the feel of the sun on your skin, autumn, summer, spring, etc. eating cookies warm from the oven. It can be anything!
When making the list, you can also think about memories where you have felt happy, and relaxed. They can be recent memories or nostalgic ones from your childhood.

You may think that you’re not grateful for these things, as these are just small moments of life that make you happy. But can you image a world where your favourite moments didn’t exist? Or if someone told you that you would never be able to experience your favourite things ever again? Suddenly you realise how special the ‘little things’ you take for granted are. The kind favour your friend or relative does for you, the amazing environment all around you, everything.

The surprising thing that I found after I created my list was that I had wrote down many things that were everyday things. There were no material items, everything that I am most grateful for is associated with memories, experiences and nature. Although each list will be completely unique for each person, I found that after I wrote my list I was purposely seeking out the items that I loved and I was more appreciative of the world around me as I looked for more things to inspire me each day.

Also, if you’re not having a particularly good time, perhaps you’re unwell or you are a little upset, making a list like this greatly lifts your mood as it is concentrating your mind on the things you like and are grateful for, and it helps you to appreciate the world. And perhaps if you put the beach on the list, you might find that you’re soon taking yourself your favourite place!

Thanks for reading!

Becky 🙂

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