Is the Grass Always Greener On The Other Side?

We have all heard the idiom, ‘the grass is always green on the other side’. I think many of us have experienced pangs of envy when we believe other people are achieving more than us or getting further in life.

But as I am the type of person who enjoys observing and listening to others, I learnt long ago that no one’s life is perfect, and know that there is no such thing as a perfect life. Life will throw obstacles in your way and you have to get around them. But I think that many believe that life should be one easy road and give up at the first hurdle.

There have been increasing occasions where I’ll be at a friend or relatives house. They’ll be a feeling a little low, and will tell me about their worries, whether its financial, career etc. then they will refer to another friend or relative and dreamily mention how they admire some aspect of their lives saying how they’ve got it, ‘all sorted out’.

But little do they know that those people they wistfully mention also possess many problems (because they tell me), and they do the same thing, either by mentioning about others that they think have a perfect life – or they refer back to the original person, admiring a part of their life.

It’s like a big circle!  (I don’t say anything as I’m not going to betray trust), but in these increasingly occurring situations I don’t know whether to find the situation funny or sad.

I imagine lining up the whole group of interconnected family and friends and telling them one by one the amazing things that everyone else admires about them.

I think this is something that we frequently overlook. We see people achieving things that we hope for, but we often ignore amazing accomplishments that we have made ourselves, and don’t believe for one second that someone else would want to be in our shoes.

So, is the grass always greener on the other side? No, it isn’t, it’s purely down to the way you view the world. You can’t look at another person and assume that they are happier as you’re only looking at the part of their life that you want to look at. Their best part, which is nice I guess.

But, if you constantly consider people around you to be more successful and happier, then naturally it will tear away at you. I have known people who have been so focused on what others are achieving that they don’t pay enough attention to their own happiness, and that’s the crux of the matter. It doesn’t matter what you’re achieving or what you possess, it’s whether you are happy.

Don’t think for one moment that you must have your life sorted out. I believe the best thing you can do in life is to be happy, let go of the petty everyday problems, appreciate everything in everyday and love everyone in your life.

Thanks for reading!

Becky 🙂

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Final Update : Are you a Daffodil or a Dandelion?

You might remember an old post of mine that mentioned that I was surprised to discover one of my favourite flowers (the hydrangea), had been damaged by the frost. 

I looked at the weeds in the garden (I have many), and they had survived unscathed. It made me realise that people are very much the same. What can effect one person can hardly bother another.

Due to its damage, I didn’t think the hydrangea would have any flowers this year. 

Over the weeks I have been amazed as I have seen the burnt-like leaves disappearing and big blue flowers emerging.

So if things are not going your way, if you’re like the frost-bitten, destroyed flower that I saw only a few weeks ago, they is always a chance that your future will be bright again. Anything is possible. 

Thanks for reading, 

Becky 😊

Achievements

Last Night I was reminded that this time last year I had my first driving test.

I don’t remember anniversaries or milestones to the exact date, I’m quite rare like that. I will have a date down somewhere when my last seizure was but I don’t know it off the top of my head.

This post has been difficult for me to write as I don’t want you to view it as a boast of my ability to drive. More of the amazing achievements people with epilepsy can still accomplish that they never thought were possible. For me driving has been one of my biggest achievements of my life, and the hardest. I NEVER thought I would drive…Ever. A few years ago if you said to me that I would be driving one day I would have laughed at you.

It took me several attempts to pass my test – solely down to nerves as I had made such a big deal out it. I was failing on very small, silly errors, which naturally hit my confidence, but a few tests later I eventually passed.

There were odd times that I did consider giving up (especially as each test was so expensive!) But I am glad I continued.

I know that there will be many more goals related to epilepsy that I will have to work on in the future, such as having a family, but I will cross that bridge when I come to it.

I’m sure that there have been many achievements that you have accomplished while having epilepsy, and through your determination and strength you are able to look back on them with pride. But whatever goal you are currently working towards in your life don’t give up on it, you need to believe in yourself and know that you can do it. 🙂