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London

Words cannot describe how upset I felt to learn of the recent attacks in London. People out for an evening, simply enjoying their lives.

No one should ever have to live in fear of an attack.

We cannot forget that this is not an isolated attack and others are constantly happening all over the world.

I have been disappointed to see so many negative comments today on social media. I was shocked, and even considered removing myself from social media as I began to question its purpose. You would think that during a traumatic time such as this, we would unite, but there were people having heated arguments instead of considering the important things – the innocent victims, and the members of the emergency services risking their lives to save them. I saw ‘friends’ on Facebook suddenly spurting out almost hateful posts which makes me wonder how I was ever friends with them in the first place. Although I understand people may have been frightened, anxious and weary I didn’t think it was an excuse to say hurtful things to others, it should be a time to stand together.

During situations like this, I am reminded of the wisdom of Gandhi:

‘You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.’

And I think that people often lose sight of this. There is more love and good people in the world than bad people. But unfortunately good news doesn’t seem to sell well, so many live their lives in fear.

Yes, there have been more attacks recently and at the moment it’s natural to wonder if they will ever end, or if we will ever be free of them – Gandhi’s advice:

‘When I despair I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murders and for a time they seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it – always.’

We must have faith, and know that the minority will never win, as Gandhi said humanity is an ocean, and our world contains far more good than bad, and in the end good will alway triumph in the end.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with everyone who have been affected by all the recent attacks.

Becky

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Surprising Update: Are You A Daffodil or A Dandelion?

Surprising Update: Are You A Daffodil or A Dandelion?

Do you remember the blog I wrote a few weeks back called, ‘Are You A Daffodil or A Dandelion?’ I mentioned that although people swoon over the popular flowers, they can be delicate, unlike the sturdy dandelion that seems to survive everything.

Well I can’t believe it, for the first time ever, we have had a sudden frost and lots of the summer plants have wilted 😦

I was in the garden looking at the hydrangea plant and I thought it was burnt, all the little buds had gone. I felt pretty upset as I love all the huge pomp-pomp like flowers that it has. There definitely won’t be any this year.

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The frost-bitten hydrangea

I went to the blossom tree at the front of the garden and that was the same. The leaves were ok, but the blossom was brown, and it looked as though tiny little bats were hanging from it instead of the pretty pink blossom that was supposed to be there.

But all the dandelions and the forget-me-nots? Well of course they were fine. Once again it proves that these plants are the survivor’s. As the other plants have wilted and died around them in an overnight frost, they have continued to thrive. Nothing seems to stop them. I knew there was a reason why I have always liked wildflowers, they have their own beauty and they’re tough.

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When you’re having a bad day, or people’s words are getting you down, think about how you’d like to be. Do you want to be like the wildflower or the spring flower? Will you be strong or fragile?

I know you will be the person who will get through everything because you are strong. Because those worse days you’ve had? You’ve survived them.

You’re doing great.

 

Thanks for reading,

Becky 🙂

Greater Gratitude, Better Outlook

Greater Gratitude, Better Outlook

When you think of gratitude, what do you think of?

Do you think about the nice thing that someone has for you recently, or is it something a little bigger than that?

What are you grateful for in your life?

At times of difficulty or illnesses many of us (myself included) have felt that there has been hardly anything in this world to feel grateful about, and when you consult other people on what they are grateful for, they will say that we’re grateful for our technology or material objects.

When our lives become busy, as they do, or if we enter a time of perhaps hardship, we sometimes forget to notice the good things that are constantly happening all around us. When we notice these things and appreciate them, we feel happier, and when we’re happy our lives become richer.

I know this sounds very simple, but just from noticing and appreciating the simple pleasures in life could increase your happiness and reduce your stress.

People come across this frequently throughout their lives and at different moments of their lives. They appreciate the balance of life, and they start to notice the amazing world that is around them. They don’t have to be anywhere special, but they value their life, their opportunities, their dreams, the amazing way that the world around them just…exists. I don’t think enough people take the time to appreciate the astounding world that is around them every single day.

Unfortunately we can sometimes be a little too preoccupied with our lives, focusing on the negative aspects of the world instead of just ignoring it and looking for the good instead.  

I would recommend everyone to try focusing on the things that they are grateful for, and seeing if it makes you more appreciative of the world around you. You can start off by writing a list of the things that you are grateful for, whether it’s your family or friends. Think about the things that they do to make you smile and write that down. If you love your pets and are grateful for them, add them to the list as well.

Next, add all the little things in life that make you happy, these can be the things such as the smell of freshly mown grass, the feel of the sun on your skin, autumn, summer, spring, etc. eating cookies warm from the oven. It can be anything!
When making the list, you can also think about memories where you have felt happy, and relaxed. They can be recent memories or nostalgic ones from your childhood.

You may think that you’re not grateful for these things, as these are just small moments of life that make you happy. But can you image a world where your favourite moments didn’t exist? Or if someone told you that you would never be able to experience your favourite things ever again? Suddenly you realise how special the ‘little things’ you take for granted are. The kind favour your friend or relative does for you, the amazing environment all around you, everything.

The surprising thing that I found after I created my list was that I had wrote down many things that were everyday things. There were no material items, everything that I am most grateful for is associated with memories, experiences and nature. Although each list will be completely unique for each person, I found that after I wrote my list I was purposely seeking out the items that I loved and I was more appreciative of the world around me as I looked for more things to inspire me each day.

Also, if you’re not having a particularly good time, perhaps you’re unwell or you are a little upset, making a list like this greatly lifts your mood as it is concentrating your mind on the things you like and are grateful for, and it helps you to appreciate the world. And perhaps if you put the beach on the list, you might find that you’re soon taking yourself your favourite place!

Thanks for reading!

Becky 🙂

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